I'm not referring to icy walking conditions when I say watch your step. I'm taking about not stepping on the scale, because that one step can lead to a major slide on your weight loss journey. The urge to get on the scale can be as strong as the urge to eat sugar (or any non-key food). Avoid getting on the scale using the same technique you use to avoid eating sugar: push away urges to get on the scale.

I kept my scale all these years because it was because the most beautiful and the most expensive scale I'd ever owned. Sad, but true. Once in a while I was aware of my scale resting between the bathroom cabinet and the wall, but I never stepped on it once I started this weight loss journey.

That beautiful scale, by the way, is no longer in my bathroom and guess what? I have no memory of who I gave it to or when. None. Zippo. Once in a while I look at that empty space between the bathroom cabinet and the wall and I wonder: why on earth did I keep that scale for so long?

There were many times that I was dying to know my weight and I was fortunate my home scale never tempted me. I coached my nurse practitioner and her staff really well, so they never accidentally told me anything weight related. I really wanted to ask two questions, but I didn't dare ask: Am I under 200 pounds yet? and Have I dropped a hundred pounds?

A recent 'incident' answered both questions for me. Trust me, you are better off not knowing such answers. If you stumble or fall and suddenly the number is in front of you: don't share it with others and forget it as quickly as you can. This sounds easier said than done, but if you don't repeat the number you don't see the number over and over. This is especially true if you post the number in social media- don't share the number with anyone.

By the way, you will not lose all the knowledge you learned from Julie because you saw your weight, whether you sought the number out or it was revealed to you accidentally. It's what you do after knowing the number that determines what happens next in your weight loss journey, so don't repeat the number - just move on. Use the situation as a reminder as to why you should stay off the scale.

Why shouldn't you get on the scale? Because seeing how much you weigh messes with you head and can lead to a big setback on your weight loss journey. There are more reasons than this, but do you really need more reasons than this? No you don't, but let me simplify this for you...

Step on the scale and you risk telling yourself one of two things:
I'm doing so well; I deserve a treat! OR 
I may as well give up, no matter what I eat this weight isn't coming off.
Regardless of what the scale reads, the truth is this:
if you stay on the course you are on - you will continue to lose weight.
Watch your step - don't get on the scale. If you have a scale in your house and it's calling your name, do something with that scale right now.

Push back on those urges to get on the scale and they will go away--or as I like to say: tap, tap, tap. Share your non-scale victories - these are the stories to share with others - stories of you success. See earlier blog posts of non-scale victories in the related stories list below.

Allow yourself to reach your goal size and to live the rest of your life focusing on living instead of worrying about a number on a scale. You can do this!

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March 11, 2015
Veggie crust pizzas are the rage these days, so I'm posting yet another pizza recipe. This one uses spaghetti squash for the crust. I've only made meat crust pizza, but one fine day I will try making these other pizzas, so I'm posting this recipe for easy reference.  You'll need a knife and fork to eat this pizza.
Key-contributor Megan made this recently and here's what she had to say:
Definitely tasty. I added lots of meat to offset the spaghetti squash and small amount of sauce that I used. It was crisp around the edges but the middle was mushy. I'd definitely make it again and hopefully get it more crisp. I flipped the crust, but I think I made it too thick in the middle.
Megan and her husband Lou teamed up and make this pizza again and here's an update from Megan...
Lou's pesto was the key! I sautéed onion and red peppers in olive oil. Added cooked grilled chicken and pesto and warmed it through. Brushed the crust with pesto, added the topping and some cheese. OMG, this is the most delicious meal I've had in a long time! I have to make myself stop eating!
Cook Time
1 hour 15 minutes

Crust Ingredients 
Modify herbs to suit your taste

  • 1 medium/large spaghetti squash
  • 1 tablespoon olive oil
  • 1 egg, lightly beaten (or you may use 2 egg white)
  • ½ cup shredded mozzarella cheese
  • 1 tablespoon shredded Parmesan cheese
  • Salt & pepper
  • 2 cloves garlic, minced
  • 1 tsp oregano, dried
  • 1 tsp parsley, dried
Topping Ingredients
Modify ingredients to suit your taste
  • 1 cup chopped mushrooms
  • 1/4 diced onion
  • 1/4 cup pizza sauce
  • 1 cup fresh torn spinach
  • 1/2 cup shredded Parmesan cheese
  • Bacon
Instructions
  1. Preheat oven to 400°F. 
  2. Cut spaghetti squash in half with a large, sharp knife. 
  3. Remove seeds and stringy guts, and brush the cut sides of the squash with 1 tablespoon of olive oil. 
  4. Season with Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper. 
  5. Place spaghetti squash, cut side down, on an aluminum-lined baking sheet and roast until tender, about 45-60 minutes. 
  6. Test if your squash is done: scrap the flesh with a fork and if the strands come off easily, it's done. 
  7. Let the cooked spaghetti squash cool for about 5 minutes, then scrape all the flesh into a beautiful pile of spaghetti strands. 
  8. Taste and season with some more Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper if needed. 
  9. Measure out approximately 3 and ½ cups of spaghetti squash. Reserve the rest for another use. 
  10. Wrap measured-out squash in a cheesecloth, clean kitchen towel, or several layers of paper towels. 
  11. Squeeze out as much moisture as possible. Let sit for a few minutes. The drier the squash, the more crispy the crust can get.
  12. In a medium mixing bowl, combine the squash, egg, mozzarella cheese, Parmesan cheese, and season with salt, black pepper, minced garlic, oregano, and parsley.
  13. Press squash in a thin, even layer on a parchment-lined baking sheet and form into an approximate 10-inch circle.
  14. Bake for about 10-15 minutes. 
  15. Remove from oven, carefully flip, and cook for another 10 minutes. Note, some recipes don't flip the crust, they just cook it longer.
  16. Spread the pizza sauce over the crust and add toppings.
  17. Bake another 10 - 15 minutes - until cheese is bubbly and edges of crust are browned. You can place under the broiler for a minute or two if you really want to brown things up. 
  18. Let sit for about 5 minutes before cutting. 
  19. You can use the parchment paper to slide it off the pan to make it easier to cut. Run a butter knife around the edge to loosen from the sides of the pan.



Original recipe source: Yummly.

March 10, 2015
I made roasted cauliflower a few days ago and it's now one of my favorite key-friendly foods. The original recipe is called "cauliflower popcorn," but I agree with my key-friends who make this all the time — cauliflower popcorn sounds too misleading — it's not at all popcorn-like. Call it what you like, but make this soon and make it often! It was so delicious I didn't event take a photo.
Ingredients
  • 1 head of cauliflower (or equal amount of commercially pre-cut cauliflower)
  • 4 tablespoons olive oil 
  • salt to taste (1⁄2-1 teaspoon, optional)
Directions
  1. Turn oven on to 425 degrees.
  2. Trim the head of cauliflower, discarding the core and thick stems; cut florets into pieces about the size of ping-pong balls.
  3. In a large bowl, combine the olive oil and salt, whisk, then add the cauliflower pieces and toss thoroughly.
  4. Spread the cauliflower pieces onto a baking sheet and roast for about 1 hour, turning 3 or 4 times, until most of each piece has turned golden brown. 
  5. The browner the cauliflower pieces turn, the more caramelization occurs and the sweeter they'll taste.
Other Suggestions
  • For easy cleanup line the baking sheet with parchment paper.
  • Sprinkle granulated garlic or roast fresh garlic along with the cauliflower.
  • When it comes out of the oven sprinkle lightly with Parmesan.
  • Make a cream of cauliflower soup using cauliflower, chicken stock, and shallots, and just before serving add caramelized cauliflower.
When I cooked the roasted cauliflower I put these these bacon-wrapped sirloin medallions (from Target - see package below) in the oven too. The meat was delicious, but the medallions were so thick that by the time they were cooked well enough for me they weren't visually appetizing because the meat was so black. I'll make this from scratch next time and when I do I'll cut the meat thinner and use better bacon.
Photo and recipe source for cauliflower popcorn: Food
March 10, 2015
This recipe looks delicious. Adding sausage or your favorite meat is an even better idea. Otherwise, serve this as a side dish with meat.
Ingredients
  • About 3 cups cooked spaghetti squash
  • 2 large garden tomatoes sliced
  • Kosher Salt
  • Garlic Powder
  • Onion Powder
  • Basil (dried or fresh)
  • Parsley (dried or fresh)
  • 5oz of fancy shredded Mexican cheese blend
Instructions
  1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.
  2. Spray a 11 x 9 casserole dish with non-stick spray.
  3. Spread about 1 cup of spaghetti squash on the bottom.
  4. Top with a layer of sliced tomatoes. Sprinkle with kosher salt and spices.
  5. Top with 1.5 oz of cheese.
  6. Add another layer of squash, then tomatoes, spices, and cheese. 
  7. Top with a final layer of squash.
  8. Add the last 2 oz of cheese on top of the squash and sprinkle with more spices.
  9. Bake for 30 minutes uncovered.
  10. Top with fresh cut basil.

Photo and original recipe source: Simplex Food
March 02, 2015
This recipe comes from key-friend Barb, whose family thoroughly enjoyed this dish right along with her. Blog contributor Jennifer jumped right on this recipe and made it her own by adding soy sauce (see her photos and recipe alterations below). I had every intention of making this for dinner last night, but it turned out to be one of those nights where I skipped dinner. Skipping dinner never happened before I started this program!
Prep Time: 16 Minutes
Cook Time: 10 Minutes
Difficulty: Easy
Servings: 6

Ingredients
  • 3 pounds (21-26 count) Unpeeled Shrimp (more or less works too)
  • ½ cup Olive Oil
  • Salt And Pepper
  • 3 whole Lemons (juice Of)
  • ¼ to ½ cup Worcestershire Sauce
  • Tabasco
  • 1 stick Butter
Preparation Instructions
  1. Thoroughly rinse raw shrimp w/shells still on. I use 21-26 count (that means 21-26 shrimp per pound) but I’ve certainly used bigger. Any smaller than this, and it’s difficult to peel, so stick with 21-26 or bigger. 
  2. Place the shrimp in a large baking pan in a single layer. 
  3. Drizzle about ½ cup of extra virgin olive oil over top of shrimp.
  4. Generously sprinkle black pepper over top of the shrimp and then sprinkle salt (I use kosher). Be very generous with the salt and the pepper.
  5. Squeeze the juice from about 3-4 lemons over top of all of the shrimp.
  6. Drizzle ¼ to ½ cup Worcestershire sauce all over the shrimp. 
  7. Drizzle Tabasco sauce over the top to your desired heat/temperature.
  8. Cut the stick of butter into pats and then evenly distribute the pats on top of the shrimp.
  9. Place the pan of shrimp under the broiler for just about 10 minutes until the shrimp are no longer translucent. 
Blog contributor Jennifer Churchill made this recipe and here's what she had to say about her spicy shrimp with soy sauce:
"The only addition I made was about 3 tbs of soy sauce added after the pats of butter. Just amazing.."


Original recipe and photo source: The Pioneer Woman
March 02, 2015
This Pepperoni Pizza Cauliflower Casserole recipe looks delicious, but right now I'm seriously restricting the amount of cheese, so I won't be making this any time soon. It calls for heavy cream, which you may want to substitute with whole milk and also cut back on the amount of cheese. When I make this, I will update this recipe to reflect my adjustments and I'll add my own photo.
Ingredients

For the Puree
  • 1 medium head of cauliflower
  • 2 Tbsp Heavy Cream
  • 1 Tbsp Butter
  • 8 slices pepperoni
  • 1/4 cup shredded mozzarella cheese
  • salt and pepper
For the Casserole
  • 12 slices pepperoni
  • 1/2 cup shredded mozzarella cheese
Instructions

For the Puree
  1. Clean and trim the cauliflower, breaking it into medium sized pieces.
  2. Place in a microwave safe bowl with cream and butter.
  3. Microwave, uncovered, on high for 10 minutes.
  4. Stir to coat cauliflower with cream/butter mixture.
  5. Microwave for another six minutes on high (or until tender.)
  6. Remove from the microwave and put into a high speed blender or food processor along with the 8 slices of pepperoni and 1/4 cup mozzarella cheese.
  7. Puree until smooth. Season with salt and pepper to taste.
  8. Adjust the cream and butter to your preference for consistency. 
For the Casserole
  1. Spread the cauliflower puree into an 8 x 8 oven proof casserole dish.
  2. Cover with 1/2 cup shredded mozzarella cheese, and layer with pepperoni.
  3. Bake at 375 degrees for about 20 minutes (or  microwave for 5 minutes).
  4. Serve hot. 


Photograph and original recipe source: iBreathe I'm Hungry
March 02, 2015
Here's a recipe for the cauliflower and ham hash, which is similar to the description Jennifer gave me after I had this at Earlee Mug last week.
Ingredients
  • 4 tablespoons olive oil 
  • 1 head cauliflower, cut into florets (5 cups) 
  • 1 medium onion, chopped 
  • 1/2 pound baked or deli ham, chopped (2 cups) 
  • 1 teaspoon paprika
  • ¾ teaspoon kosher salt 
  • ¼ teaspoon pepper 
  • 4 large eggs 
  • 1 tablespoon chopped fresh parsley 
Instructions
  1. Heat 3 tablespoons of the oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat. 
  2. Add the cauliflower and onion and cook until browned, 10 to 12 minutes. 
  3. Add the ham, season with the paprika, salt, and pepper, and cook, tossing, until tender, 10 to 15 minutes; transfer to a plate. 
  4. Reduce heat to medium and heat the remaining 1 tablespoon of oil in the skillet. 
  5. Fry the eggs to the desired doneness, 2 to 3 minutes for slightly runny yolks. 
  6. Serve on the hash and sprinkle with the parsley. 
Recipes for the other foods I had last week at the Earlee Mug:

Cauliflower and Ham Hash recipe modified from: Real Simple
March 02, 2015
Last week I made a visit to the Earlee Mug (Granby, MA) and I had three delicious foods that are specifically key-friendly: Chicken buffalo burger (recipe below), cauliflower ham hash, and a cauliflower bun. All were delicious and Jen has graciously offered recipes. I live so close to this place I just go there instead of making these foods.
Ingredients for Buffalo Burgers
  • 1 lb ground chicken
  • 1/4 cup hot sauce
  • 1/2 cup shredded cheese
  • 1 tsp Italian seasoning
  • 1/2 tsp garlic powder
  • 1/2 tsp celery seed
  • 1/4 tsp salt
  • 1/4 tsp pepper
  • 1 egg (optional)
Ingredients for Cucumber Slaw
  • 2 medium cucumbers, seeds removed and grated
  • 2 Tbsp shredded carrot
  • 2 Tbsp homemade mayonnaise
  • 1 tsp Dijon mustard
  • Juice of 1/2 a lemon
  • 1/2 tsp celery seed
  • 1/2 tsp onion powder
  • 1/4 tsp salt and pepper
Note: if cucumbers aren't available, top your buffalo burger with blue cheese dressing.
Instructions
  1. Combine all the cucumber slaw ingredients in a bowl and put the bowl to the side.
  2. Mix all of the ingredients, except the chicken, in another bowl.  
  3. Add the chicken and stir (or use your hands) until the buffalo sauce mixture is incorporated.
  4. Form the meat into 3-4 equal patties.
  5. Grill the patties for 5-7 minutes on one side. Oil as necessary to prevent sticking. 
  6. Flip the burger over and brush with additional buffalo sauce. 
  7. Cook for another 5 minutes or until cooked through.
  8. Serve the burger on a lettuce leaf and top with Cucumber Slaw (or blue cheese dressing).
Key-friend Lou stopped by the Earlee Mug and took home some of their ham hash. He heated the ham has on his cast iron skillet and served it with two eggs over easy.

Original recipe source: Holistically Engineered
March 01, 2015
Today's recipe is from Lou, one of our key friends who is a fabulous cook. The beauty of this pesto is that it does not contain pine nuts. It's also fresher and cheaper than store bought pesto.  Pesto is one of those ingredients you can add to just about everything you make. Fresh basil is available year-round and you can make this in large batches and then freeze it in smaller portions. This recipe is inspiring me to try growing basil summer.
Ingredients
  • 1.5 cups baby spinach
  • .75 cups basil
  • 6 cloves garlic
  • .5 cups grated Parmesan
  • 1 tsp lemon juice
Directions
  • Place everything in a blender or food processor and blend while adding olive oil until smooth.
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February 25, 2015
My eating routine has evolved since I started eating the key-way. I used to think the time of day determined when or if I was hungry. Every morning I would get out of bed and it was immediately time for breakfast. At the strike of noon, I was hungry. A clock, I've learned, has nothing to do with hunger.

My eating routine completely evolved on the morning after my first session when I got out of bed and I did something I hadn’t done since I was 19 years old - I skipped breakfast. I just wasn’t hungry. The fact that I had woken up that morning fully embracing the concept to eat only when I'm hungry shocked me, but it felt good and it felt right, so I went with it.

It’s four years later and I still don’t eat breakfast - most days. I say most days, because my appetite changes from time to time. With no ties to the clock, I usually eat between 11-2 and then again between 5-8. There are mornings when I am hungry and I have breakfast, days when I’m not hungry and skip lunch or dinner completely, and days when I don’t eat at all. Yes, there are times when I don't eat for a day or two. Talk about shocker! Once again, it feels good and it feels right, so I go with it.

As I was writing this piece, I realized I was hungry. I noticed the time, 10:50am, as I got up from my computer. I wasn’t looking at the clock to determine if I was hungry, those days are long gone, I needed to keep an eye on the time so I wouldn't miss an appointment.

I heated up the last of yesterday's homemade chicken soup and as I stirred the soup I thought about a conversation I had with blog contributors at our potluck this past weekend. A few of us discussed the possibility that we may be using the concept to eat when you hungry to allow ourselves to eat too much.

Is it possible that we're on a plateau because we're eating too much? 

As I write this, my immediate response is:
If you think you’re eating too much, then you probably are.
Can it really be this simple? Yes, I believe it is this simple.

Looking at my bowl of chicken soup, I wondered if one bowl of soup would be enough.

Of course it’s enough – it’s a whole bowl of chicken, vegetables, and broth! 

The day before I made chicken soup from a whole chicken. At lunch I ate some of the chicken when it was still warm. At dinner, I ate three bowls of soup. Or was it four?

But that’s okay - right? Everything I ate was on program. The chicken-vegetable ratio was spot on. Sure, everything I ate was on program, but did I really need to eat that many bowls? Was I really that hungry?

I knew the answer: probably not.

I'm at a turning point in my weight loss journey and the answer to this question is essential:
Am I ready to evolve once again on my weight loss journey?
Yes,  I'm ready to evolve my weight loss program. Reaching my goal size depends on this evolution. This feels good and it feels right, so I'm going for it. 

What about you? Is it time for an evolution in your weight loss evolution?
February 23, 2015
This recipe comes from contributor Jennifer. She brought this to the potluck yesterday and as soon as I took a bite I realized I needed to take a photo. This recipe is easy to make and ingredients can be adapted to suit your taste and what's in your kitchen.
Ingredients
  • 1/2 cup red onion, chopped
  • 12 large eggs
  • 16 oz cottage cheese
  • 8 oz Swiss cheese, shredded
  • 8 oz cheddar cheese, shredded
  • 1 tbsp olive oil
  • 3 large white mushrooms, sliced
  • 1 cup spinach, chopped
I cut up at least 2 ham steaks (bite size pieces) or you could use cooked sausage, bacon, turkey, chicken, etc. I also omit the spinach, and add corn and more mushrooms; you can add peppers, etc.
Make it your own!

Directions
Preheat oven to 350 °F.
Spray 9 x 13" pan with olive oil.
  1. Cook onion in olive oil until caramelized. Put aside.
  2. Add eggs to a large mixing bowl. Scramble eggs.
  3. Add cottage cheese, Swiss, cheddar, mushrooms, spinach and cooked onions.  Stir all ingredients together until well mixed.
  4. Pour egg mixture into prepared pan. Bake for 35 minutes.
  5. Serve warm.
Note: can be refrigerated and reheated.
February 22, 2015
I was at a small key-potluck yesterday and one of the fabulous dishes served was this chicken coleslaw Inna made. It's one of Julie's recipes and I only have one word: yummy!
 
Ingredients
  • 1 bag shredded coleslaw
  • 4 cups cooked chicken (chicken tenders or chicken breasts)
  • Mayonnaise
  • Fresh sweet basil (or dried basil)
  • 1 Fresh lemon or lime
  • Salt and pepper
Directions
  1. Slice chicken into small pieces
  2. Add bag of coleslaw into a large serving bowl
  3. Add the chicken into the coleslaw
  4. Add in enough mayonnaise to cover chicken and slaw
  5. Add basil, salt and pepper (to suit your taste)
  6. Squeeze fresh lemon or lime and let it sit
  7. Chill in refrigerator for at least 10 minutes
"Chicken and coleslaw fast and easy"
- Julie Ann Kibe
Here's the recipe Jennifer followed to cook the chicken for her basil chicken coleslaw:

Ingredients
  • Butter or olive oil
  • 1 or more boneless, skinless chicken breasts
  • Salt and pepper
  • Other spices or seasonings
Equipment
  • Baking dish
  • Parchment paper
Instructions
  1. Heat the oven to 400°F with a rack in the middle position. 
  2. Rub the pan and one side of the parchment paper with butter or olive oil; this prevents the chicken from sticking.
  3. Pat the chicken dry and rub with a little butter or olive oil, if desired. Sprinkle with salt, pepper, and any other favorite seasonings. I sprinkled mine with dried basil.
  4. Transfer to the baking dish and place the chicken breasts in the baking dish, spaced slightly apart. You can also tuck herbs or lemon wedges around the chicken for extra flavor.
  5. Lay the parchment, butter-side down, over the chicken. Tuck the edges into the pan and press the parchment down so that it's snug around the chicken. The chicken breasts should be completely covered with the parchment.
  6. Transfer the chicken to the oven and bake for 30 to 40 minutes, until the chicken is completely opaque all the way through and registers 165°F on an instant-read thermometer.
Serve the chicken immediately, or let it cool and refrigerate for up to a week.

Original recipe source for Basil Chicken Coleslaw Key Hypnosis
February 22, 2015
It's easy to believe that because we didn't succeed once or twice, we will always fail. Albert Einstein once said “I think and think for months and years. Ninety-nine times, the conclusion is false. The hundredth time I am right.” It is this kind of optimism we need embrace to be successful on our weight loss journey. Don't think about how many times you failed before. You didn't fail all those other times--you just didn't finish! Finish what you started today-don't wait for tomorrow to begin your weight loss journey.

I created this comic strip of myself using Pixton Comics
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In mid-January I joined a handful of key-friends in a 30-day squat challenge. My kitty Ginger loves it when I do squats, because I rub her belly each time I squat. I was disappointed, as I'm sure Ginger was, that my two earlier attempts at squat challenges were unsuccessful.

This time, I was determined to finish my 30-day challenge. After finishing day one, I proudly placed a black check mark on my chart and then wrote about my progress, something I did every day of my challenge. All four days.
This morning I saw my unfinished squat post and I realized I was feeling like a failure every time I saw that blog piece, as it reminded me of something I started and didn't finish. I realized my little mean girl was acting out and suddenly I had a perfect topic for today: finish what you start.

I am not a failure because I didn't finish those squats! I simply didn't finish what I started. The key is to start something you really want to finish. I asked myself: how important it for me to do those squats? Right now, it's just not that important. I hushed my little mean and I broke free from the cycle of failure!

It's important to finish what we start, because we feel great when we do and we feel lousy when we don't. When we don't finish what we started, we feel like a failure. We feel embarrassed. Why do we feel embarrassed? Because we often ANNOUNCE to everyone that we're going on a diet or exercise program. Later we feel embarrassed and shameful because we didn't finish what we started.

Does any of this sound familiar to you? How many times have you announced to friends and family you're going to start a diet or exercise program and in a short amount of time went off your program? You no longer talked about it. You silently hoped none one would ask "how's your program coming along?" You felt full of shame. You felt like a failure. You may even have completely shut down and stopped feel anything. Months or years may have passed before you dared announced you were starting another diet or exercise plan. How many times have you repeated this cycle of feeling like a failure? Isn't it time you break out of the cycle and finish what you started?

I have attended a number of personal growth workshops and I didn't announce them everyone, because those workshops were way out there. After four years on this program, I'm still at a loss of words to describe how or why this works. This program may be out there, but it works.

The day I began my weight loss journey, I felt a shift inside me that I couldn't put to words. Three years ago, I began this blog because when I'm at a loss for words, I write to process what I'm going through. I didn't talk to friends and family about this program, but every day I let about 300 people listen in and join in my conversation about my weight loss journey.

But I digress. My point today is this: finish what you start. Start again and again and don't give up on your plan. Ask yourself if you really want it and every time you feel like going off your program, remember how much you want this. Free yourself from the cycle of failure.

Have you fallen off your diet or exercise plan? You did not fail - you haven't finished what you started.

Tell you inner critic, that voice I refer to as your little mean girl, to hush and get right back on your plan this moment. You've been in the cycle of failure enough times to know tomorrow never comes.
February 19, 2015
A few of my "non-key" friends, who want to lose weight, tell me they can't give up X, Y, or Z foods that are not on this program. They insist "it's not healthy" to give up those foods (fruit or whatever foods they say they can't give up). To which I reply "Do I look unhealthy to you?"
What are you focused on today?
I've been following this program for four years now. I have more energy than I did ten years ago and probably more than I had twenty years ago. My doctor is happy with all my numbers and I'm not on any medication. Before I started on this program I was not diabetic, but it runs in my family and, according to my doctor, I would most likely be a diabetic by now if I hadn't dropped all this weight.
I have more energy today than I did when this photo was taken in 1998
After conversations with non-key friends about the foods we eat, or more specifically: the foods we don't eat, I think about the sustainability of this way of eating. This way of eating is sustainable. Why? Because we aren't supposed to be "in the river" for the rest of our lives.

Being in the river refers to the part of our journey when we eat certain foods and we stay away from others - this is our weight loss phase. While in this phase, we stay focused on reaching our goal size.

Once we reach our goal size, we begin to cycle in and out of the river, as we add specific foods back into our diet. This cycling teaches us to maintain our goal size and we only return to the river when our clothes are tight.

But you know all this because you've been through the program.*

All this leads me to one question: What are you focused on today?

If you're focused on non-key foods--it's time to let those thoughts go. Push them back. Tap them away. Do whatever it takes to stay on course.

Keep your eye on the prize folks: stay focused on reaching your goal size.

Meanwhile, stop worrying about maintenance or how long it will take to reach your goal. Your time will come - you will reach your goal. And once you're there, you'll be just as successful at maintaining your weight as you were losing your weight.

But first - you have to reach your goal size.



 *If you haven't been through the program: wait until you've finished your  first three sessions before you read this blog or any other blogs related to this program. Why? Because the less you know before you start on this journey the better. Come back after you've been through all your sessions.
February 09, 2015
I'm on a roll with asparagus this week and here is another yummy asparagus recipe. This time we use spaghetti squash for the "crust" and then add the quiche ingredients. I haven't made this recipe, but our key-friend Kathleen made this and shared her photo with us. I modified this recipe per her recommendations.
Like any quiche recipe, don't let the fact that you don't have one ingredient stop you from making this, use any vegetable or any kind of cheese (or no cheese at all) you have available.

Ingredients
  • 13 ounces, weight Asparagus
  • ½ Small Yellow Onion
  • 2 cloves Garlic
  • 1 teaspoon Olive Oil
  • 5 Eggs
  • 1 cup Milk
  • 1/8 cup grated sharp cheddar or Swiss cheese
  • ½ teaspoons Salt
  • ¼ teaspoons Pepper
  • 1 small cooked spaghetti squash (3 cups)
  • Cooked bacon, cut into thirds
Instructions
Preheat oven to 400ºF.

Cut off the woody ends of the asparagus.

Chop the onion, mince the garlic, and cut the asparagus spears into 1-inch pieces.

Heat the olive oil in a pan over medium heat, and saute onion and garlic for several minutes, until the onion is soft.

Add the asparagus and continue to saute until the asparagus has turned bright green and is soft but not limp.

Whisk together the eggs, milk, cheese, salt, and pepper.

Grease a pie pan.

Press the cooked spaghetti squash to the sides and bottom of the pan, forming an even crust.

Pour the egg mixture into the pan. Add the asparagus, onion, garlic, and bacon pieces on top of the egg mixture.
Bake for 40 minutes until quiche is firm.
This recipe was modified from the original recipe source: Tasty kitchen
February 09, 2015
Tasty recipes don't get much easier than this one that only has two ingredients. Thanks Inna for the recipe and your photo!

Ingredients
  • 1 dozen uncooked asparagus
  •  1 dozen uncooked slices of bacon (regular or turkey)
Instructions
  1. Cut the ends off each asparagus.
  2. Wrap each asparagus with a slice of bacon.
  3. Cover a baking sheet with tinfoil and place all the wrapped asparagus on top.
  4. Leave in oven until the bacon is crispy and gold.
February 06, 2015
A friend from Southern California shared this recipe on Facebook and it looked so good it only took me a few days to pick up the ingredients and make this. On this third snow storm Monday shutting down most of Western Massachusetts, this is the perfect day to enjoy this soup!

The original recipe includes potatoes, which I switched out with parsnips instead. If you're not a parsnip fan, skip the parsnips or be creative and add a different veggie.

Ingredients
  • olive oil
  • 2 lbs ground beef
  • 6 parsnips, diced
  • 8 carrots, diced
  • 3 celery stalks
  • 1 large yellow onion, chopped
  • 3 cloves garlic, chopped
  • 4 cups beef stock
  • 1 1/2 cups water
  • 1 28oz can diced tomatoes (I only had one 14oz can of diced tomatoes and this soup still tasted delicious)
  • 1 pound frozen green beans (I added a 12oz of fresh green beans)
  • 1 pound frozen corn
  • 4 bay leaves
Instructions

Heat some olive oil in a large stock pot over medium heat. (I didn't add oil to the pan before adding the ground beef.)

Add the ground beef and brown. Remove ground beef from the pan and set it aside. (The recipe didn't say if you should keep the liquids from the pan or not so I kept this, which was a great choice because this soup turned out so flavorful.)

Add more olive oil to the same pot (I adde the oil this time) and then add: parsnips, carrots, celery, onion, and garlic and sauté until the onions are translucent.

Add the ground beef the the pan. Pour in the beef stock, water, tomatoes, green beans, corn, and bay leaves.

Bring the soup to a boil. Reduce heat to a simmer and cover. Let simmer for an hour.

Season with salt and pepper and serve!
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Original recipe inspiration from All Food Recipes
February 06, 2015
A  few weeks ago, as my fourth anniversary on this program was approaching (today is my big day),  I skimmed through journals I'd written over the past fifteen years. As I read my journals, I realized how much my focus has shifted since my weight loss journey began. In those old journals, page after page, year after year, I resolved to lose weight this year, this time, with this diet. As I wrote those promises my weight up instead of down.

Instead of making promises and whining about the change I wanted, four years ago I shifted my focus on living a life of change. Following Julie's advice, I visualized the size I wanted to be and every day I did my best to stay on course. Dropping seven sizes is a whole lot of change!
 
Along with my old journals were vision boards that I started and never finished. In 2014 I finished my first board Clarity. I started with a colorful poster board, added layers of my truths, and intentionally left open space for more things to come into my life. 
 
I created Walk This Way in the summer of 2012. I'm not sure if this board unfinished or the start of a new theme (open spaces) in my boards. I really like is how I used this board to challenge myself to live well and be fit. After so many years of broken promises, it's nice living well and being fit!

Becoming more clear about what I want in my life was important me after losing my job last July. If ever there was a time to Dream Big this was that time. A week after making my first vision board I created Dream Big. This board reflects the start of my focus shifting once again: away from focusing on weight loss and toward exploring other lifelong dreams. I have not given up my vision to reach my goal size. In fact I have lose more weight after I created these two boards.
 
After following four years on my weight loss journey, I know what to do to reach my goal size: stay in the river and keep my vision of my goal size clear in my mind.

Meanwhile, I'm living one of my big dreams: life as a regular size woman.
January 31, 2015
Key-contributor Jennifer provided this recipe and I agree with her - it's delicious! This chowder reminded me of the traditional Rhode Island Clam Chowder I grew up with, except my RI chowder never had thyme in it. That said-thyme was a great addition. I would have added bacon to my bowl just before serving if I'd had any in the house. Again this is not something we did in RI, but what doesn't taste better with a little bacon?
Ingredients
  • 4 tbs butter
  • 1 large onion diced
  • 2 garlic cloves chopped
  • 2 cups clam juice
  • 3-4 cans whole clams (I used 4 cans of chopped clams)
  • 2 cans corn
  • ¼ teaspoon thyme
  • 1 cup celery diced
  • 2 bay leaves
  • salt
  • pepper
  • 2 cups whole milk
Optional spices: ¼ tsp. celery seed or ¼ smoked paprika.
Directions
  1. Saute butter and onion and cook until softened, about 5 minutes.
  2. Add garlic and cook another minute or two.
  3. Add clam juice, clams, corn, thyme, celery, and bay leaves.
  4. Adjust seasoning to taste with salt and pepper.
  5. Bring to boil and then simmer for 25 minutes.
  6. Add milk and bring back to boil.
  7. Optional garnish: sprinkle of chopped parsley. 
Bacon Options

 Cook 1/2 pound of diced bacon or salt pork until browned and then follow the steps listed in the recipe above. Or just before serving, top each bowl of soup with cooked bacon pieces.
January 31, 2015
Many of us on the East Coast have encountered slippery roads these past few days, but this doesn't mean our weight loss program has to become a slippery slope too. Steady you course by taking a closer look at what you're eating. It may be time to break up with some of your favorite foods. I know, breaking up is hard to do, but you want to reach our goal size don't you?
Theresa, aka Cheese Slayer, September 2013
Cheese is what gives me the most trouble. For me, cheese is like an old boyfriend: I know my relationship with cheese is unhealthy, so I break up with cheese, but I keep going back. When I'm in my cheese slayer mode, shredded Parmesan is the only cheese I have in the house. There are times when I have to stay away from Parmesan.

Is cheese one of your trouble foods? You too can become a cheese slayer! Say no to cheese for a while (a month or more) and see what happens. Don't bring cheese into you house. If you live with others, treat cheese like other foods that are for them and not for you.

Some of my key-friends gave up ketchup, barbecue sauce, and other condiments. Those condiments were trigger foods for them. Another key friend said she thinks tomato sauce is a trigger. My advice: break up with tomato sauce and see what happens.

What foods keeping you from reaching your goal size? Stop eating them.

Does this seem too hard for you to do? That's how I felt too. Then I realized THAT was THE reason I needed to do it. If it's hard to give up, I decided, it's worth giving up and seeing what happens when I do. A few years ago, I said to one of my key friends "this is so hard." When I said it aloud I realized I must be doing something wrong, because this didn't used to be "hard." I thought about what was different and, sure enough, I was eating foods in the gray area.

Spoiler alert: there are no any gray areas - we're either on program or we're off.

I dropped the "gray area" foods and my weight started dropping again.

It's barely a month into 2015 and millions have already given up their weight loss goals. You can beat the odds: move out of the gray areas and get back on program. Don't beat yourself up for what you did wrong, just start moving forward.

Speaking of moving - do you need help staying motivated to exercise? Me too. For motivation, I go to the Internet. Recently I wrote about Finding Inspiration, after I read an article about an exercise app, and for the past few nights I've been listening to the app. I'm happy say I'm mall walking and using my treadmill once again.

These articles help motivate me to keep exercising:

January 27, 2015